Nov 22, 20226 min
(Image courtesy of UCF Tandem Vault. Nick Leyva took the image.)
(Image courtesy of UCF Tandem Vault. Austin S. Warren took the image.)
(Image courtesy of UCF Tandem Vault. The image was taken by Nick Leyva.)
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Young adulthood begins when someone is 17 and ends by the time that person is 30. When a person is a child, school and after-school activities provide various learning opportunities through sports, the arts, etc. By age 17, the list of activities begins to shrink as that person starts to specialize in a few areas. Additionally, seventeen-year-olds begin to think about the next step after high school. Some may choose to finish high school or get a GED and go straight to work in a job throughout their lives. Others start to ponder what gives them energy vs. depletes them. For the first time in their lives, these students clarify what they want life to look like after high school and how they want to get there. Does that person want to attend post-secondary education, join the military, work or pursue some other option? Does that seventeen-year-old have obligations and people that rely on them?
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I focus on the students who want to continue their education by attending college. When first-years enter their first semester, students have definite ideas of what they want to accomplish as they dream of life after graduation and a future that may include becoming lawyers, doctors, or engineers. When a pre-med major begins taking Chemistry I or a business major begins taking Introduction to Financial Accounting and finds that they are struggling with the coursework and material so much that they do not pass, the student may need to reevaluate their options. Some will choose to take the course again in the hopes of a better outcome, only to find that they fail again. So they ponder, what am I going to do, and what's my purpose?
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It is at that point of struggle, either before the second try at the course or not, that I pull students aside and ask, "What are we going to do now? " I try to expand their minds to other opportunities in the field of their dreams. I tell them they can still work in healthcare, law, or STEM while having a liberal arts or hospitality background. I also ask them, "Why are they banging their heads on a wall trying to pass a course over and over again when there is an open door nearby that may play more to their strengths? " Maybe that door leads the student in a completely different direction than the one they envision for themselves, but that's the lesson of adulthood – to remain flexible in planning and be prepared to pivot when necessary.
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Young adulthood is the time in a person's life when they learn how to set, address and modify the course of their life. - Adrienne Frame
Most people want college to be a transformational experience. The purpose of college is for a student to get a degree and emerge as a changed person as a result of their post-secondary educational experience. To get a degree, that person must attend class and maintain a certain grade point average. If a person also takes time to not only go to class but also becomes involved in the life fabric of the institution, they learn how opportunities beget more opportunities.
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College can be very problematic if people do not permit themselves to try things – new things. If a person just goes to class and then goes home, that person will have a transactional educational experience. Those students do not recognize how they can apply the lessons they learn in the classroom to their lives as they fail to build relationships with peers, professors, or faculty. A person only develops when they actively seek knowledge through academic, professional, and personal experiences through engagement in the broad-based learning environments available both inside and outside of the classroom.
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I didn't love my college experience. While I was academically successful, I did not find a sense of community until I went to Harvard University in my junior year as a participant in the Visiting Undergraduate Program. The Visiting Undergraduate Program allows students to go to Harvard for a semester or a year. When I went to Harvard, I tried everything. I was a newscaster with WHRB – Harvard's student-run radio station, and rowed with the Dudley house club crew team. It was a fantastic year where I grew as a person and a leader. When I do my work, I want to give students the skills and confidence to pursue whatever they want to dream of doing with their lives.
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A person needs to recognize that they created a community in college, and those communities do not necessarily disappear after graduation. They can reconnect with mentors from college who may still be genuinely interested in the perpetuation of their success. During these catch-up calls, the mentor can act as a sounding board or a nonjudgmental ear.
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The biggest asset a person can have is resilience. If someone does not like their life, they can change it – right here, right now. People can give themselves new opportunities to succeed by attending art classes, getting a dog, or stepping out to try something new they have always wanted to do. In those moments, one can meet new people and, in turn, new transformational communities for themselves based on similar interests, desires, likes, and supports.
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